Theyre always talking, but not to me.

I am so frustrated with Cheer these days. I know it is just because she is growing up before my eyes, and I guess I am just not ready for it. I feel like she is not being responsible. She has been spending time with her new best friend, BB. BB is out of school, has her own car, loves to go see her many friends and is draging Cheer with her. I have had several run in's about Cheer being late for Curfew. I have called her on her Cell and she ignores. I know that I am just wanting to keep my kids at home with me, that way I know they are safe. It is so hard to let go.

F-man is kind of doing his own thing and D-man has done his own thing for quite some time.
F-man needs to abide by the rules just a tad more. He seems to be in his own little world a little. He goes to his friends house and does not come home until it is bedtime. I know I agreed to let him stay and he is just making up for lost time, because he is experiencing freedoms that he has not had before, but I am not seeing a lot of progress. He has not really saved any money, even though I have not seen him bring home any purchase and he knows that I want him to get his own car. I finally asked him where all of his money is going, and he said that he spent it and that his friends needed to borrow some. I put my foot down and told him that I wanted to see him put his money in the bank and not to spend any more, unless it is on himself, for clothes or something.

Tonight we are going to have to sit down and have a discussion with both of them. F-man need to be up front about where he is going, and when he will be home.

I need to let Cheer go a little more, I know she is just being a typical teen, but now I understand what my Mom went thru when I told her that I was moving out when I was 20. (I know that seems old to some, but I was a very shy and sheltered kid.) At 20, I probably had the maturity of someone several years younger. My mom, seemed very upset and I seemed determined to get out. I don't regret moving out. I had my own little apartment and my own friends and I felt like I could not entertain in my tiny little bedroom with my twin bed. I was working full time. I did not make much, but I found a room-mate and we took out on our own. It was great. We had get togethers, and I never looked back but now I understand why my Mom was upset.
I did not really get her up to speed, I just came home one day and said, I am going.
I blindsided her.

Kids don't always know what is best, and they don't always act responsibly. I checks Cheer's my space and she puts on there how much fun she is having, and sometimes says how irresponsible they are being. Like driving too fast. I have to practically hold my self down to not go and get her keys, her cell, and lock her in her room.

OK. Rant is over. I do want my Daughter to have friends, to be making fun memories and so that is why, I don't just lock her in her room and not let her have experiences. I just have to pray really hard that she comes thru her teen years alive and well. And she is not going to be a junior in High school for 3 more years because she is having to much fun and not being a good enough student.