Black clouds over him

When will it slow down. The black cloud hanging over f-man is still there.

First of all, our goal is for him to move out soon. He has found a person that is interested in being a room mate, A girl he knew from school. I met her and she seemed nice. They are just friends, there is not romance going on. She has a 10 month old child and she is working as a security guard on the weekend, and in a restaurant during the week. I don't think that it will be easy for him, but I have decided that I just can't mother every kid I know. I feel bad that I have taken this attitude, but I seem to be the only person at the house that still even likes F. I think everyone is over him. I need to just sit back and let him go.

About the black cloud. This week was going to be another step in the right direction for him. He was going to get his own cell phone, and get off of our plan. I have been paying for his phone, and while it has not been a lot of money, it has been money and money is a little tight, because of some medical expenses, car payments, and feeding my extended family these days.

Even though I have been at my job for more than a year, the cut in pay that I took has affected us. It seems that we are living from paycheck to paycheck, and every little bit helps.

F-man, has an old car, but it seems to be sound, as long as he takes care of it. He has had some problems with it, but I thought that he had gotten all of the kinks out of it. He took it in for some repairs and withing a week the wheel fell off while he was driving it.

Then the other night, he was leaving a friends and he put the key in and it stuck in the ignition and he could not turn the car off. He did not know what to do, so his friend told him to open the hood and take the wire off the spark plugs. He tried to pull one off, and the car did not stop, so then his friend tried to pull off another one and it broke, still the car was running. (what the heck)...
they pulled off another one, it also snapped and then the car stopped.

I used to have a little car, that the sparks plug wires would slip off on and the car would start to run really rough, and that was with the wire still on the plug, just not good contact.

So I was back to running him back and forth to work, I really hate doing it, so I thought that on Monday, I would pick him up, take him to the bank to get his check cashed, go to "wally world" for spark plug wires and back over to the friends so that he could get the spark plug wires put back on and drive it to the shop so that I would not have to pick him up again the next day.

"Wally world" did not sell spark plug wires (it was 11:00 PM on a work night and we are running all around the city looking for an all night parts place. Someone had told me once that a certain parts place, near downtown, was open 24 hours. Well it might have been open like that at one time, but we could not find it. We gave up and came back home.

Got home about midnight. Got up early the next morning to take him to get new wires and guess what. His bank card did not work, so more money from me.....when will this nightmare ever end. ....

I had to get to work, so I purchased the wires, dropped him off at his friends house with his extra set of keys and he replaced the wires, started the truck with the stuck key and drove it to the repair shop. I went to work, transferred more money to his account so that he could pay the repair shop, with the understanding that as soon as his paycheck cleared, he would transfer the money back to me.

He went to pay and his card was again declined. After several frantic calls to me at work, I gave him the number to the bank and he found out that they had put a security hold on his account because they suspected that someone had used his card fraudulently. They called him, but heT thought that they were calling him because his account had gone a little negative, so he did not bother to call them back. I have never ignored a call from the bank. They took the hold off of his account, and he was able to pay for the repair, but now he is broke again, and not able to get his phone switched.

One more week behind. and one more black cloud has unloaded it shower and moved on.

O yea, the problem at the bank, was because of his use of his debit card at a car repair place, because of a stuck key in the ignition in his old car, that broke a week after he had that problem fixed. We have our suspicions about that car repair place. Two times he has had his care fixed a that well know national repair chain, and two times less than a week after, he had a major unexplained problem with his car. Once causing him to have to replace the car. He picked that repair place, this time I picked the last one.

labor day

Putting off clearing out my craft area has finally come to a end today. I decided that I just couldn't be productive in that space any longer. My little nook, in between the kitchen and the living room has become a drop spot for things. Books, fabric, patterns that I had gotten off the Internet and thought I would like to make, but never gotten around to it. I had to try to organize it into something that I could work in. So, today, D was at work, K and C were off doing things, F and D were out also, so It was just me. I started trying to get it back into order. I moved the furniture around. My cubby is what should be my dinning area in my house, but we don't use it for that. We have not really ever used it for that. At one time it held a table and chairs, but we never really ate there, because it was too small really for a table and 4 chairs and then try to sit around it. You would have to pull the table into the center of the room, and then you could not get to the kitchen to bring the food in. It was just not designed right. So I turned it into my craft area. It is still not big enough, but I can make it work, with a large shelf, and lots of plastic bins to put things in. I spent several hours sorting my scrap material into lights and darks and putting them in bins. I then moved my sewing machine back into my sewing cabinet. It was removed for a while so that I could take it with me when I went to my sewing club meetings. I am just about done, and ready to tackle another project. Can't wait to get in there, next project to make - some cute little purses for a craft sale, then finish the quilt that I started for F and then start a cute little pink and black quilt for k.